Frightening Facts for Gay and Lesbian Youth

Frightening Facts for Gay and Lesbian Youth.


In an article posted by PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Gays and Lesbians), the authors cite frightening research that highlights:

  • Suicide is the leading cause of death amongst gay and lesbian youth.
  • Gay and lesbian youth are 2 to 6 times more likely to commit suicide than heterosexual youth.
  • 30% of suicides committed by teens are committed by gay and lesbian teens.


These are alarming statistics, especially considering that it is estimated that around 10% of the population identifies as gay or lesbian. The article goes on to discuss mental health statistics of gay and lesbian youth and highlights many of the issues these individuals face. To read more about this article, please visit http://www.pflagphoenix.org/education/youth_stats.html.

This article stood out for me because there are minimal services that specifically target Gay and Lesbian Youth in the Greater Waterbury area.

As a mental health professional, I understand the effects of stress, depression, and anxiety as a few issues that come up for many youth. For Gay and Lesbian youth, many of these issues are amplified due a many different environmental factors.

If you are struggling with your sexuality and/or if you know someone who may benefit from additional support, feel free to contact me for more information at 203-572-2962 and/or stokescounseling@live.com.

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Eileen August 16, 2012 at 11:47 AM
"It appears there a few posters here concerned about revealing their identity and are using initials or made up fictitious names to heckle." No LeAnne, it's smart internet use. There are too many "nuts" out there. It would be foolish to post anything that could identify one in real life. What's to stop someone from showing up at your door? What if your boss didn't like your "opinion" and fired you? (And yes, that has happened.)
Michael Stokes August 16, 2012 at 11:49 AM
Thank you for your support. I appreciate it. :)
Michael Stokes August 16, 2012 at 11:50 AM
Katie, thank you for the comment and support.
Eileen August 16, 2012 at 11:56 AM
@Sean "What all this gay marriage stuff does is continue the undermining of the traditional family of mom and dad. " You've posted that several times, but never say, specifically how. Just parroting some talking point?
Eileen August 16, 2012 at 11:58 AM
@MAC " for the best good of an "ordered society." A nasty little man with a funny mustache used words like that once.....
Eileen August 16, 2012 at 12:03 PM
And thank you for writing this article. I think you provide an invaluable service.
Joe Blow August 16, 2012 at 12:20 PM
Well, I see we've beaten the dead horse. Let's sum it up, first, it doesn't seem very "gay" to be a homosexual. Secondly, homosexuals are freaks of nature and the sooner this is admitted and stopped trying to be mainstreamed as "acceptable" the better off everybody will be. Finally, up until the 1970's homosexuality was considered a mental disease until the homosexuals pressured it removed from the list. The author of this post can confirm this and he seems to be right on coarse in dealing with it as such.
Michael Stokes August 16, 2012 at 12:32 PM
The purpose of the blog is to increase awareness of LGBT and how we can further help them through support. I appreciate all of the support in this blog post. So many of you have really highlighted so many helpful strategies to help LGBT Youth such as support, talking with them, seek counseling to help them through this, and your unconditional love.
Will Wilkin August 16, 2012 at 04:24 PM
Let's sum it up, first, it doesn't seem very "gay" to be a Joe Blow. Secondly, haters like Joe Blow are freaks of nature and the sooner this is admitted and stopped trying to be mainstreamed as "acceptable" the better off everybody will be. Finally, up until the 1970's Joe Blow considered psychiatry to be sound science, until the victims of electroshock therapy pressured it be humanized. Joe Blow can confirm this though he seems to be very coarse in dealing with it as such.
Will Wilkin August 16, 2012 at 04:56 PM
Thank YOU Michael Stokes for your courageous public speech against hate and bullying, and especially for your professional devotion to helping people deal with that ugly side of the world. The world needs a lot more people like you. All human beings deserve respect and compassion, at least those persons who are not heinous criminals. One of the hardest lessons for anyone to learn is that people who insult or otherwise act to hurt people on account of the supposed "not-normal" aspect of their victim are actually only telling us about themselves after all. Diversity in populations has always been a strategy nature uses to survive the vagaries of a changing and unforgiving environment. A purely "normal" population would indeed be much more fragile and subject to collapse than populations with variety, which is why diversity in a population is a sign of health and vigor in the species. Human diversity has been a huge source of strength for the development of our culture and technology. Human diversity should be celebrated for the beautiful and constructive thing that it is. Human solidarity is another strength of our species, and is much preferable to the bigotry and bullying that, rooted in misery, can only cause more misery.
Michael Stokes August 16, 2012 at 04:58 PM
Thank you, Will. Your support is much needed in the LGBT community.
Craig Zac August 17, 2012 at 01:33 PM
"Gay marriage is about legislating acceptance of homosexuality, which does no good for gays. Gays are not normal and never will be. There are a lot of people who will never accept homosexuality, no matter how many hate crimes laws liberals pass. Those who are gay need to accept it and move on. They get depressed because they expect acceptance when they should not. Be who you are and accept that some people will never accept you. Stop being so worried with who will accept you and who will not." But would you say this about the Blacks or Hispanics? Couldnt one say that the whole Gay Marriage and the whole anti gay thing mirrors the Equil rights movement of the 1960's, As I recall, when the Blacks were seeking to change laws and be treated like the rest of society and not animals, there were those who felt it was their jobs or rights to smash the movement, even if it meant assasinating the leaders. What happened? The Blacks got angry and peacefull marches and demonstrations became ugly violent tv news footage. Lets all start worrying about whats going on with ourselves and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing... Im sure all of us have bigger problems in our private lives that need our attention moreso than whos getting married or having sex with whom. its 2012 for gods sake, get over yourselves. Live and let live!
Robert S August 22, 2012 at 02:33 PM
The "system" only compounds and increases this problem by considering it normal for a person to think he/she is gay. It is no more normal than desires of suicide. They are both abnormal and symptoms of a much deeper problem. Watch out for the warped & twisted solution that thinks we can try to make the suicide symptom go away by making the gay symptom acceptable. How wrong that is! That falls under the warped concept that if we legalize what is unlawful, we will have fewer criminals! You only have to look back at history to see. The today gays try to gratuitously promote the idea that there were just as many gays in history as there are today, but were suppressed. Now they are going to try to say because they are suppressed today, there is a high rate of suicide. But history and logic debunks that because history shows no such high rate of suicide despite the suppression. Today, gays are people who have morally fallen the lowest and are trying to bring society down with them. The darndest thing is the media & public school system puts that terrible bug into children's heads that makes they start destroying themselves at such an early and impressionable age by harmfully questioning themselves. It's an utter disaster.
Concerned Parent August 22, 2012 at 03:58 PM
Here's my take on Gay Marriage....I support and acknowledge the marriage of any 2 individuals who choose to make a commitement to live legally as a couple. PERIOD. Unless of course you choose to marry a Cabbage Patch doll or an equlvalent latex partner. No man or woman have the right to impose thier beliefs on any other individual on how they choose to live their lives. Personally, I don't care, but just prefer not to see it thrown in my face. We are all equal in this country and should all be free to live as we choose, even if some people are uncomfortable with it. If you are, I strongly suggest getting a life.
brutus August 23, 2012 at 01:01 AM
why do you stop at two individuals? why is polygamy illegal? to each their own, right? we're all equal, right? and why not a cabbage patch doll? it seems that you are just as willing to impose limitations on marriage, as long as those limitations follow your own sense of morality. the fact is, marriage has been defined as a union between one man and one woman since the beginning of civilized society. why are the ones trying to maintain that tradition viewed as hateful?
Lynn August 23, 2012 at 03:55 AM
I agree Brutus...
MAC August 23, 2012 at 04:41 AM
Re "gays are people who have morally fallen the lowest and are trying to bring society down with them." Did you see the news item about: "ANOTHER LAWMAKER URGED TO RESIGN: MINNESOTA DEM. ALLEGEDLY SOLICITS SEX WITH 17-YEAR-OLD BOY AT REST STOP"? This is DEM Minnesota State Rep. Terry Gauthier. ..."Among his other pastimes, Mr. Gauthier likes to troll the popular website Craigslist, and not for used toasters, or futons, or any of the things most people use Craigslist for. No, Mr. Gauthier likes to troll Craigslist for sex. With young men. Or in this case, a 17-year-old boy. "And Mr. Gauthier apparently gets what he looks for, because he is now alleged to have engaged in oral sex with the unnamed 17-year-old in question, leading many to call his resignation, and even more to call on him to back out of his race for reelection."... http://www.theblaze.com/stories/theres-another-lawmaker-being-urged-to-resign-minnesota-dem-solicits-sex-with-17-year-old-at-rest-stop/
J. Sosallter August 23, 2012 at 01:01 PM
more spin with no direction. The public policy argument against polygamy is based on the economic realities. Males with the most resources will have the greatest success at attracting women, hence a greater number of wives, leaving other males with no opportunities for finding a wife (what if Donald Trump didn't have to divorce his string of spouses, but instead kept them all as wives) . That imbalance would affect all of society, creating economic upheaval and essentially a class of men with no standing to compete - think biblical times. It's a specious argument. Equal rights to marital benefits under civil law hurts no one, and enhances stability. You could also argue that it reduces the likelihood of gay people marrying straight people, with the consequent problems that causes.
J. Sosallter August 23, 2012 at 01:16 PM
You're post about equates to the value of what passes through your gut, particularly if you are lactose intolerant. "...homosexuality is a normal expression of human sexual orientation that poses no inherent obstacle to leading a happy, healthy, and productive life, including the capacity to form healthy and mutually satisfying intimate relationships with another person of the same sex and to raise healthy and well-adjusted children, as documented by several professional organizations (American Psychiatric Association, 1974; American Psychological Association, 2004a, 2004b; Conger, 1975, National Association of Social Workers, 2003);
Bernard August 29, 2012 at 11:55 PM
Jesus was not normal and look what it got him. It certainly seems to me that some "Christians", in defense of the faith - lose it. "A tree is known by it's fruits."
Sean M August 30, 2012 at 12:00 AM
If you are going to quote me, have the integrity of citing who you got it from. Blacks were murdered and beaten in the streets. Gays are not given a legal recognition for their relationships. Apples and oranges. Gay marriage is a continual effort to undermine the family by redefining it to mean anything and everything. Nature made it so we need a mom and a dad to have a baby. There is no good reason to interfere in this matter.
Sean M August 30, 2012 at 12:05 AM
Eileen Traditional family=mom and dad. Gay marriage=2 men or 2 women Go to the 2nd and get away from the 1st. Any time you recognize families other than mom and dad, you get away from the basic family unit. Not only do I not parrot talking points, I use my real name.
Sean M August 30, 2012 at 12:09 AM
Never blamed gays for disintegration of marriage anywhere. If someone's words make you feel bad, that is your fault, not the person writing them. Only victims let other people hurt them with words. When liberals call me some of the crap you do, I just brush it off. I do not sit around and let it ruin my day. Neither should gay people. If someone is gay, be gay. Understand that no one has an obligation to accept you (gay or straight), your lifestyle, or anything you do.
Joe Blow August 30, 2012 at 12:09 AM
Please refer to them in their proper term, homosexuals. There is nothing "gay" about being a homosexual, it's just another attempt by the homosexuals to mainstream their behavior.
Sean M August 30, 2012 at 12:10 AM
Nice one john, insult Christians. No depth to your comments and insults.
Michael you are a beautiful person who is doing a tremendous job! Your courage is an inspiration and the world needs more people like you! The fact that you have a blog that sparks debate is proof enough of the great work you do. Even better is that you allowed the anti-gay posters to continue arguing their point (even though thy are clearly out numbered) and didn't pass any negative judgement. That says a lot about your character. Very professional, and a true American to allow people the freedom to do and say as they choose. Well done! And continue fighting the fight until all LGBT children can fight for themselves.
Joe Blow August 30, 2012 at 01:59 AM
Antonio, Michael has some "skin" in the game and I'm not sure but his "blog" may actually be advertisement but none the less you are entitled to your views. I can see you follow the liberal handbook very well, divide and conquer. Since you feel that pro-family people are "anti-gay" then it must be us against you and for the record "we" outnumber you by far.
Michael Stokes August 30, 2012 at 02:02 AM
Thank you Antonio! I appreciate the support and know that the LGBT children I work with are truly an inspiration for their courage and strength as they continue this fight.
Todd December 18, 2012 at 12:14 AM
but your distain come across loud and clear!
Sean M December 18, 2012 at 12:55 AM
Disdain and not accepting of a lifestyle are as different as night and day. Someone who does not accept homosexuality does not mean they are a homophobe.


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