We all have been so "tipped over" in tragedies in our world lately. Loss of life is heart wrenching, something most of us cannot begin to know how that feels, for those affected.
Although those happenings affect us, when it hits our own community, it feels heavier on our hearts. We feel for our neighbors and seek to comfort.
Does anyone know the "right thing' to say? There is no right thing. How can there be? Be silent for lack of knowing what to say? In being asked to offer words here, I had no doubt what to say.
Please don't doubt what to say, whatever you say is perfect, for it is love. Bring love, in whatever form that looks like, just bring it to these families.
For those who experienced this sudden loss, we feel the pain, not like you do, yet we hurt for you. We cry with you, grieve with you and for you.
We may not know you but we know it has to hurt, the worst hurt of your lives. We are so sorry for your loss.
Be in it, feel it, cry it out, write it out, honor how you feel. Keeping it together, holding it in, will create more pain. Be with others who feel as you do. Cry together, talk it out together, express your love and comfort.
Tears are such a beautiful provision. Crying releases pain endorphins and frees the pain every time, drop by precious drop. Cry until every drop is out, hopefully extinguishing some of the harsh edge, of this tragic loss.
They say time heals, and it does. I lost a dear friend many years ago. She is with me every day, as she gave me so much to grow on with. She was a mentor and a teacher in my life. In the beginning, it was very tough and I cried a lot. Everywhere she used to be, she now was not. I rejoiced in the hope, to see her again.
Honor this and grow in all they left with you, because you had this time with your dear child, brother, son, grandchild, nephew, cousin, friend.
We know you wanted them with you for a lifetime, and it being cut short makes the memories, what rises to the top, so precious as gems of gold. They are what will remain after the pain lessens. See them, feel them, use them in a powerful way to move you forward, when that time comes. For now, feel it all. Draw strength from your family, friends and all of this community. We hurt for you.
The Bible promises a time when you will see your loved ones again. John 5:28,29
Rely on your faith to support you. Look forward to a time when death will be done away with. Revelation 21:3,4.
Draw comfort and comfort others. 2 Corinthians 1:3,4
In Memory Of Nicholas Aleia And David Metcalf
With love for you
Bette J Shaw Holistic Health Coach
